In ancient times, due to the influence of laws and social concepts, most men didn't take their own "concubines and maidservants" as one thing. On the contrary, if they treated concubines equally, they would become the object of people's ridicule, believing that they were willing to degenerate and didn't do anything.
Qiao Zhizhi fell in love with his maid, my mother. Because of her low status, Qiao Zhizhi, an official, was unwilling to marry her. As a result, my mother was forcibly seized by Wu Yansi and committed suicide with Qiao Zhizhi's love poems. Wu Yansi is angry with Qiao Zhizhi, but he falsely accuses him of being in prison,. If it wasn't for the environment, if Qiao Zhizhi could marry my mother, maybe things wouldn't be so far. In the eyes of the people at that time, taking a wife and a concubine were two concepts. In addition to criticizing Wu Yansi, people at that time felt that it was meaningless for Qiao Zhizhi to break the family for his concubine.
Song Dynasty is a great writer with a great style of writing. Many people know that he is deeply in love with his wife. A piece of "jiangchengzi" is very touching. However, if we examine his attitude towards his maidservant concubine, it will be enough to make the modern people dumbfounded and have to make another evaluation of his affectionate image.
In his whole life, there were many concubines and romantic affairs. However, his attitude towards these concubines was basically ruthless and unintentional, just like the patriarchal system, which only regarded them as personal goods.
When Su Dongpo demoted his officials, he sent all his concubines to others. It is said that two concubines were pregnant, and he had no time to ask (what's the attitude of sending people to bed, and even if there are any children in his belly?) Liang Shicheng, the eunuch in the late Northern Song Dynasty, and Sun Zhen, the Hanlin scholar, all claimed to be the son of Su Shi, the concubines of Su Dongpo. Even Su Dongpo recognized them Su Guo, the son of Li's son, denied this situation, but was close to Liang and sun. It is said that Liang Shicheng took care of his brotherhood and even said to his family's accounting room, "no matter how much you spend, you don't have to tell me. Just pay as you wish."
The concubines who took the fetus to send people away were good at life. What's more sad was a concubine named chunniang. Jiang Mou, Su Dongpo's friend, came to see him off. He happened to see chunniang and was greatly admired. He said to Su Dongpo, "I have a white horse, willing to exchange beautiful concubines with the bachelor." Su Dongpo thought about it. He exchanged the famous foal for a concubine. It was worth it. He nodded immediately.
But when chunniang heard about this news, this talented and beautiful concubine refused, accusing Su Dongpo of saying that he knew that he could not be a sinner because of horses. You, a scholar in the hall of Su, were so beautiful that he called lianxiangxiyu, but wanted to change horses! In anger, chunniang ran into locust and died on the spot. Although she was a concubine, she was also a woman. She was regarded as a donkey by the man she loved. She hated and humiliated her. It was really boring.
In addition to chunniang who died miserably, Su Dongpo's most famous concubines were Ji Qie. She was the only concubine who had not been sent by Su Dongpo to accompany him to the south of the five ridges. However, although Su Dongpo was widowed at that time, although Wang Chaoyun and him had children for him, she still could not become his wife. After her death, Su Dongpo still wrote "Ji Ren" on her tombstone. Because she came from a humble family, because it was a social taboo at that time to take concubines as wives. This intelligent woman can only live without hearing. Although she is familiar with the history and terminal enlightenment, she is unable to change her life.
In addition, although concubines are inferior, they are even more inferior, which is also the concept of scholar officials. Although they sang with each other and were famous, in their hearts, they despised them and did not really love or cherish their life experience. Su Dongpo once called a prostitute a "confidant", but in the end, he still cherished his reputation and refused to accept her as a concubine. A famous prostitute could only become a monk in despair.
Su Dongpo's way of waiting for concubines is very typical in ancient Chinese scholar officials. He is famous for his bravery and magnanimity, but also for his concubine. How many women in the world are willing to be concubines?
It's a great misfortune for a woman to be concubine Ji. They are not even qualified to show their love for their husbands. If any man has a deep love with Ji Qie, it will bring a smile and shame.
Guoyu: in the spring and Autumn period, when Wen Bo, the father-in-law of the state of Lu, died, his mother warned his concubine Ji: when there were strangers holding the ceremony, you were not allowed to cry, nor to show people with swollen eyes! But you should not lose my son's face and let the outsiders say that he had feelings with concubine Ji!
Just don't have love with Ji Qie. That's all right. Besides, more men regard Ji Qie as a tool for fun and abuse.
Yan Ting's beloved concubine Xuanying, Yan Wu, his son, was very dissatisfied. He smashed Xuanying's head with a hammer while she was sleeping. Did Yan Ting punish his son? No! He had the courage to kill his son when he was young! Later, Yan Wu became a governor, and he was even more proud to come to Yan ting. Xuanying died like this, and she still loved concubine!
When Yang Zheng killed concubines, it was even more common: "there were dozens of concubines who were happy, but they were not satisfied. They would kill them with sticks. They would skin them, turn themselves over to their feet, nail them on the wall, and throw water when they were dry and hard." He was so scared that his staff couldn't speak.
In the Qing Dynasty, the concubines of the talented men were called fengliushi. In fact, Dong Xiaowan was in the eyes of maobijiang, which was just the object of fighting and scolding. In the war, it is a clear proof to take the risk of escaping the family and helping his mother and wife, but scold Dong Xiaowan for dragging him behind. When Dong Xiaowan was in charge of the disease, he braved the frontier to fight and scold her, saying that he was abnormal. Since he was abnormal, why did Dong Xiaowan beat and scold her? He never beat and scolded his mother and his wife? Very simply, he thought that concubine Ji was something to beat and scold.
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