剖析人发怒的根源和动机 认识适度控制怒气的方法-看世界

剖析人发怒的根源和动机 认识适度控制怒气的方法

有人说,人生下来就是受苦的,因为是哭着来到这个世界。每个人对生活的态度是不一样的,大家应该注意做好预防才能让自己的生活改善。很多的人会出现情绪变化,这严重的影响到了自己和家人,而且还会影响到身边的人群,这样的情绪化问题对大家的身体会有影响。哪些人会比较容易发怒呢?有你吗?下面跟随360常识网了解一下吧!

有人说,人生下来就是受苦的,因为是哭着来到这个世界。每个人对的态度是不一样的,大家应该注意做好预防才能让自己的生活改善。很多的人会出现情绪变化,这严重的影响到了自己和家人,而且还会影响到身边的,这样的情绪化问题对大家的身体会有影响。哪些人会比较容易发怒呢?有你吗?下面跟随360常识网了解一下吧!

Some people say that people are born to suffer because they come to the world crying. Everyone's attitude is different. We should pay attention to prevention to improve our life. Many people will have emotional changes, which seriously affect themselves and their families, but also affect the people around them. Such emotional problems will have an impact on everyone's body. Who is more likely to get angry? Is there you? Now follow 360 common sense net to understand!

哪些人容易发怒?

Who is prone to anger?

1、患有经前综合征的女性女性在来月经的那几天,容易出现脾气暴躁、情绪不稳定,其实是有其生理原因的。当雌激素和孕酮在月经来临前的那周分泌水平降低时,就会出现经前综合征,虽然它的机理尚不明确,但确实会影响情绪。

1. Women with premenstrual syndrome. Women in the menstruation that few days, prone to temper, emotional instability, in fact, there are physiological reasons. When estrogen and progesterone levels decrease in the week before menstruation, premenstrual syndrome will appear. Although its mechanism is not clear, it does affect mood.

2、糖尿病人。低血糖指的是空腹血糖浓度低于某一极限,1型糖尿病和2型糖尿病人临床都会出现一系列因血糖浓度太低引起的问题。低血糖会让人在几分钟内出现攻击性增强、发怒、意识混乱、坐立不安和惊恐等情绪。

2. Diabetic patients. Hypoglycemia refers to the fact that the fasting blood glucose concentration is lower than a certain limit. Both type 1 diabetes mellitus and type 2 diabetes mellitus patients will have a series of problems caused by too low blood glucose concentration. Hypoglycemia can lead to aggression, anger, confusion, restlessness and panic within minutes.

3、失眠的人。缺乏睡眠会导致神经紧张和忧愁烦恼,服用一片安眠药能缓解失眠的症状,但有可能让脾气大增。苯二氮卓类药物(如舒乐安定)能治疗失眠,有时作为处方药也用来治疗焦虑症,这类药会产生一种副作用,它会影响到约1%的服用者,导致他们无缘无故发脾气、攻击性强和失去理性。

3. Insomnia. Lack of sleep can lead to nervous tension and worry. Taking a sleeping pill can relieve insomnia symptoms, but it may increase your temper. Benzodiazepines (e.g. salbutamol) can be used to treat insomnia. Sometimes they are also used as prescription drugs to treat anxiety. This kind of drugs will have a side effect, which will affect about 1% of users, causing them to lose their temper, aggressive and irrational for no reason.

4、甲状腺功能亢进的人。如果你总是无缘无故地发火,很有可能是由于甲状腺功能亢进所致。这种内分泌疾病多发于女性人群,发病率约为1%。当甲状腺分泌出过多的甲状腺激素时,就会引发甲亢。甲状腺激素会影响到与*新陈代谢功能相关的各种生命体征,如心率和体温;也会影响到各种生理组织,包括大脑,导致患者容易发怒,其他的一些症状还包括体重减轻、颤抖和出汗。

4. People with hyperthyroidism. If you always get angry for no reason, it's probably due to hyperthyroidism. The incidence of this endocrine disease is about 1%. When the thyroid gland secretes too much thyroid hormone, it will cause hyperthyroidism. Thyroid hormones can affect vital signs related to * metabolism, such as heart rate and body temperature. They can also affect various physiological tissues, including the brain, leading to irritability. Other symptoms include weight loss, shivering and sweating.

5、肝脏受损的人。在古代医学里,肝脏与情绪相关,中医常说“怒伤肝”。有很多疾病会影响到肝脏的健康状况,如肝硬化和肝炎,最终发展为肝性脑病。它会导致人的性格发生变化,如坏脾气、行为不友好和攻击性增强。当肝脏受损后,这些有毒物质就会在血液中逐渐堆积起来,影响到大脑的情绪功能。

5. People with liver damage. In ancient medicine, liver was related to emotion, and traditional Chinese medicine often said "anger hurt liver". There are many diseases that affect the health of the liver, such as cirrhosis and hepatitis, and eventually develop into hepatic encephalopathy. It can lead to personality changes, such as bad temper, unfriendly behavior and aggressive increase. When the liver is damaged, these toxic substances will gradually accumulate in the blood, affecting the emotional function of the brain.

6、抑郁症患者。抑郁症不仅表现为无精打采和心情悲伤等,也会表现为容易发怒、焦虑不安和易激怒。

6. Patients with depression. Depression is not only manifested in listlessness and sadness, but also in anger, anxiety and anger.

我们不妨从经典中借智慧,剖析人发怒的根源和动机,从文化层面帮助我们深刻地认识发怒以及适度控制怒气的方法。

We may as well borrow wisdom from classics to analyze the source and motivation of people's anger, and help us deeply understand the method of anger and moderate control of anger from the cultural level.

愤怒源于自尊:适度是自卫,过度是自卑

Anger comes from self-esteem: moderation is self-defense, excess is inferiority

圣人就不发怒吗?《论语·公冶长》中有载,子贡曰:“我不欲人之加诸我也,吾亦欲无加诸人。”子曰:“赐也,非尔所及也。”意思是子贡曾对老师长吁短叹道:“我呀,特别不希望别人把约束意志强加在我的身上;当然了,我也绝不拿自己的意志强加于人。”孔子听了这番话,答道:“这件事儿,可不是你想办就办得到的啊。”也就是说连孔子和他的学生也不能逃避发怒或者被别人的怒气攻击。

Don't saints get angry? In the Analects of Confucius, gongyechang, Zi Gong said, "I don't want people to add to me, and I also want to add no people." Confucius said, "giving is beyond your reach." Zi Gong once sighed to his teacher, "I don't want others to impose the will of restraint on me. Of course, I will never impose my will on others." After hearing this, Confucius replied, "this is not something you can do if you want to." That is to say, even Confucius and his students can't avoid being angry or attacked by others.

发怒是一个人的自尊本能,人都有边界意识,他的尊严也有自己的领地,这里面有自我的自由,有选择的权利,还有一部分隐私,无论周围是领导、同事、朋友甚至是爱人亲人,一旦触犯了边界,人会启动一种自动防御机制。适度的自尊,是对自我的保护;不过过度自尊表现出的攻击性愤怒,背后却是过度的自卑。比如有的人平时心平气和,和女朋友外出用餐时,却总要数落服务员几句:“你看,这茶怎么都凉了?怎么热菜都上齐了,还有凉菜没上呢?” 比如领导经常训斥下属,家里一个主人经常训斥保姆,这种符号性地愤怒,以发怒为名片,动不动甩出来,想要达到炫耀的目的,恰恰是自卑的表现。

Anger is a person's self-esteem instinct. People have boundary awareness, and their dignity has its own territory. There are freedom of self, the right to choose, and some privacy. No matter the leaders, colleagues, friends or even loved ones around, once they violate the boundary, people will start an automatic defense mechanism. Moderate self-esteem is self-protection, but the aggressive anger of excessive self-esteem is behind excessive self abasement. For example, some people are calm at ordinary times. When they go out to eat with their girlfriend, they always scold the waiter: "look, why is this tea cold? How come all the hot dishes are served, and the cold dishes are not served? " For example, leaders often reprimand their subordinates, and a master at home often reprimands the nanny. This kind of symbolic anger takes anger as a business card and can't move to show off. To achieve the purpose of showing off is just the expression of inferiority.

要想“制怒”,先要正视愤怒,辨别自己怒气的源头究竟是自尊还是自卑:若是自尊,便可换一种坦然大气的表达方式,捍卫自己的领地;若是自卑,应砥砺自我、强大内心,臻于平和的境界,这种“符号性愤怒”也将迎刃而解。

If you want to "control anger", you should first face up to anger, and identify whether the source of your anger is self-esteem or inferiority: if you have self-esteem, you can change a calm and atmospheric way of expression, and defend your territory; if you have self-esteem, you should cultivate yourself, strengthen your heart, and reach a peaceful state. This "symbolic anger" will also be solved.

别当情绪“变色龙”:忽而愤怒,忽而懊悔

Don't be an emotional chameleon: anger and regret

曾有一位母亲,想考验一下四岁的小儿子是否有孝敬之心,便拿出一大一小两个苹果,招呼儿子来吃。小男孩跑来,第一手便抓起大苹果,咬下一口,母亲本已心下一沉,却见儿子另一手抓起小苹果,又是一口。母亲气不打一处来,不等儿子咽下苹果便高声呵斥起来:“吃大的不够,还要占着小的?你眼里难道就没有妈妈吗?”谁知儿子眼泪汪汪地回应道:“我想尝尝哪个苹果甜,把那个最甜的苹果留给你呀。” 听罢孩子的回应,母亲的愤怒霎时化成了一汪糖水。

Once there was a mother who wanted to test the filial piety of her four-year-old son. She took out two apples, one big and one small, and asked him to eat them. When the little boy came, he grabbed the big apple in the first hand and took a bite. The mother was already in a deep heart, but saw his son grabbed the small apple in the other hand, another bite. The mother was angry. She shouted loudly before her son swallowed the apple: "what's bigger is not enough, but what's smaller? Don't you have a mother in your eyes? " Who knows son tearful ground replies: "I want to taste which apple is sweet, leave that sweetest apple to you." After hearing the child's response, the mother's anger suddenly turned into a pool of sugar water.

《论语•颜渊》里曾记载,子曰:“爱之欲其生,恶之欲其死,既欲其生,又欲其死,是惑也。”意思是喜欢一个人的时候,喜欢得不得了;厌恶起来,就恨得不得了。一个是火一样的极端,一个是冰一样的极端,这就是迷惑。我们总在纷纷扰扰、蜚短流长中被自己下意识爆发的怨气所掌控,却忽视了理智的判断、缺乏对事物全局的掌控和判断。一时莽撞的愤怒,对他人造成的伤害却是永恒的,留给自己的遗憾和悔意也是永恒的。

Yan Yuan, the Analects of Confucius, once recorded that Confucius said, "it is perplexing to want love for its life and evil for its death, both for its life and for its death." It means that when you like a person, you can't enjoy it; when you hate it, you can't hate it. One is the extreme of fire, the other is the extreme of ice. This is confusion. We are always under the control of our own subconscious outburst of resentment, but we ignore the rational judgment, lack of control and judgment of the overall situation of things. For a moment, the rash anger, the harm to others is eternal, and the regret and regret left to oneself is eternal.

人在那一刻爆发出来的怨气,有的时候就在于出手太快、判断不清,如果能够听别人把话说完,沉下心来看全局,可能就会少一点发怒了。

People's anger erupted at that moment, sometimes it's because they are too quick to judge clearly. If they can listen to others and look at the whole situation, they may be less angry.

“制怒”真谛:冲动是魔鬼,发怒是祸水

The essence of "controlling anger": impulse is the devil, anger is the bane

开私家车,本来图的是方便快捷,却不小心成为了怄气的事,开斗气车,互相超速、互相别,落到最后谁都走不了,大动肝火、甚至大打出手,这情况可不少。

Driving a private car was originally designed to be convenient and quick, but it has become a matter of anger. Driving a fighting car, speeding each other and saying goodbye to each other, no one can leave at the end of the day. There are many cases in which people are furious and even fight with each other.

《论语•颜渊》里曾记载,子曰:“一朝之忿,忘其身,以及其亲,非惑与?”人一时愤怒,怒发冲冠,就连自己是谁、亲人是谁,都抛到脑后了。人这样不节制、任性,贪图发泄情绪时的痛快,却全然不计后果,这样的愤怒是很可怕的,一旦酿成大错,必将是悔恨终生。比如车道上你追我赶的置气,一旦出现车毁人亡的事故,则没有任何挽回的余地,根本就容不得你有重来的机会。

In the Analects of Confucius, Yan Yuan once recorded that Confucius said, "when one dynasty is angry, he forgets his body and his relatives, and is not confused?" People are angry for a while. They even forget who they are and who their relatives are. People are so unrestrained, willful and greedy for the pleasure of venting their emotions, but they do not care about the consequences at all. Such anger is very terrible. Once it leads to a big mistake, it will be regret for life. For example, in case of a car crash, there is no room for recovery, and there is no chance for you to come back.

所谓“制怒”,精髓便是这个“制”字。冲动是魔鬼、发怒是祸水,一时的不节制,贪图一时的舒适,一念天堂、一念地狱,不控制自己的情绪,带来的可能真的就是一去不复返的终生悔恨。

The essence of the so-called "system of anger" is the word "system". Impulse is the devil, anger is the bane of the water, a moment of unconstrained, greedy for a moment of comfort, a thought of heaven, a thought of hell, do not control their own emotions, bring the possibility of real is a never-ending regret for life.

急火攻心之时,不如闭上眼睛,给自己一点冷静思考的时间,等待自己内心真正的答案:这事儿,真的值得我发火吗?学会用适度的克制和忍耐换取日后的追悔不及。

When you are in a hurry, it's better to close your eyes, give yourself some time to think calmly, and wait for the real answer in your heart: is this really worth my anger? Learn to use moderate restraint and patience in exchange for later regret.

智商靠学习,体现能力优劣;情商靠历练,体现素质高低。学会管控情绪,心平气和、不急不躁地好好说话、待人处事,就是最好的历练。《论语》中,就暗藏着许多人都未曾领悟的制怒之道。

Intelligence quotient depends on learning to reflect the quality of ability; EQ depends on experience to reflect the quality. The best experience is to learn to control emotions, speak well and deal with people calmly, without impatience. In the Analects of Confucius, there is a way to control anger that many people have not understood.

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